Who cares?

BEING CARED for. It’s one of the biggest and most-wanted feelings that people seek. To others, it may be even more important than love and happiness.
Care can be shown, received and registered in many different ways. Caring may even be misconstrued as something else, something negative. Perhaps you’re the type to care excessively for others, taking a risk for them. Or maybe you care just a bit, and never think of anyone but yourself.

Then there is the type who cares deeply, but refuses to show it. Could you be the type who hides the fact that you care for others, afraid of getting rejected?

No one cares about you

Imagine a life alone; a life where no one cares about you. Think of all those problems you’d have to solve by yourself, with not even an ear to confide in, a shoulder to cry on or a person to spend time with to ease the pain.

Think of all those achievements, failures, experiences that you will have no one to tell about. Your stories will gather dust in the corners of your mind, forever untold, as there is no one who cares enough to listen. It is like living in the most crowded place in the world, with people bumping into you on the street, with thousands of faces—yet you are all alone. You have no one.

This is why care is important. It is not only important to give it, but to receive it. What kind of person would you be if you only received care, but never once tried to give some?

I once spoke to a good friend of mine, Carlos, about his opinion on caring. He finds it to be the second best thing in the world, with love being the first.

There are many views on the term “care,” but not one of them is the precise truth. They are all true.

Think of it as a trip to the mountains. You will find many scenic spots and encounter many views from high up there. Perhaps one view awakens your emotions the most, making you terribly emotional. And another could be so plain, you simply move on to the next.

The view is different from every cliffside. There are many different people in the world, with many different outward appearances—and different inner turmoil. It eats them up like a wild fire does to a thick forest. It is how we view them that determines how much we care.

Sometimes, it’s better to care unconditionally. Don’t think about the hardships. Love is a seed that sprouts from soil that is fertilized with care. You cannot nurture something to become something greater with just a few pats on the back. A life without love and care would be a life out in the cold.

My lovable pet

A good friend got me a pet chick. She was fat and adorable, always chirping and running around in circles. Whenever I brought her close to my heart, she would stop chirping, and would close her eyes in a peaceful manner. She won my heart in a matter of minutes.

I couldn’t get enough of her cheerfulness, and the way she took a nap on my lap could instantly melt me. I cared for her so much, and I gave her many good things. I even named her Chika.

The next night, when I went downstairs to see her, she was lying in her cage, unable to stand up. I tried helping her, but she would just chirp weakly and make a few wobbly movements.

I was on the verge of tears. I was able to take a few pictures of her and held her close to me one last time before letting her rest. But I will always care for her, even in her absence.

Some things change in ways that we cannot accept. Sometimes we will care for something so quickly, so deeply, that we become attached to it. Perhaps it’s because of the person who gave that thing to us.

It takes a lot of willpower to get over such pain, when so much caring didn’t amount to anything, or seemed not to help at all. All of the people you care about are just like Chika. They have their own lives, their own little worlds, and they run about constantly, going about their daily routines. But the touch and caress of someone who cares can make a big difference. With the warm embrace of a person who loves and cares for you, things immediately feel okay. You find solace.

Learn to care

Don’t take too long to find it in yourself to care. Even the littlest things you do can help—from a compliment or a light-hearted joke, to deep heart-to-heart talk and sympathetic hugs. All you have to do is show a little love, and it goes a long way.

Never stop showing how much you care, because in the end, it is returned and very much appreciated. You’ll never know when you’ll be able to show your love and care again, for there’s no guarantee that you will be here tomorrow.

Climb every mountain and look out from every cliff. See these cliffs as different types of people with different lives. See the different views, and learn to care about all of them.

By Hannah Nolasco
Philippine Daily Inquirer

DateFirst Posted 22:05:00 12/18/2010

Thoughts

As the saying goes.. "you cannot live alone"  vice versa "you cannot live without showing your care to the things around you." We're all human being with emotion and affection. I, sometimes tend to forget that I do have obligations that I need to take good care of I'm talking about my future. Do not be afraid to show you care because you'll never know, do not be afraid nor shy to tell your parents/siblings how much you value them. CARE TO LIVE!

- Enrique' Fernandez